Missing Home


We’ve been gone for just over 3 weeks. We’re set to fly out to Lima, Peru later this evening.

And I’m experiencing my first longing for home.

As all those close to us know, we are currently void of anything we would call “home”. Our home for the past 6 years has been Kingston, Ontario. It was a modest 1 bedroom apartment, filled with old furniture donated from my parents, an old, bulky television with no cable, and a few shelves overflowing with books that we obsessively kept buying.

Despite these limitations, it was our home, and I loved coming back to it after being away – particularly when away on conference. That is when I missed our tiny apartment most.

We certainly had our share of negative experiences in that space – I can easily recall the thousands of hours we spent hunched over our respective laptops while sitting across from one another at the dining room table (on which we never dined) working on yet another pressing and all-important project.

Both of us experienced too many sleepless nights to count. The stress of graduate school can be overwhelming – my cornucopia of meds for sleep disturbance and anxiety can attest to that.

But we also had many good times in our little apartment.

Sunday mornings, cuddling up on our ripping-at-the-seams leather couch while watching mindless reality television I remember fondly (despite not having cable, we got MuchMusic and all the terrible shows it hosts). I also recall Saturday mornings, when Marina always stayed in bed longer than I could handle. On these occasions, if the weather was good, I would make some tea, grab a book and spend the morning on our balcony half reading half observing the drama that unfolded between the numerous pigeons across the parking lot behind our building.

But now our home is just a memory.

We sold off most of our belongings, with the exception of books, my guitars, and our laptops. Then we moved out of Kingston at the end of April, when our lease was up.

Here I am, sitting at the Traveller’s Inn in Quito, Ecuador, typing these words while Marina watches some Robin Williams movie in Spanish. Despite being on our way to yet another exciting country, all I want in this moment is to be back in our tiny, poorly furnished apartment watching Dr. Drew’s Celebrity Rehab.

More than the physical space of our apartment, I miss the few but great friends we left behind.

When we first left, I swore we would not be coming back to Kingston, and had strong doubts about settling down in Ontario, or Canada for that matter. Now, only 3 weeks into our adventure, and already I am starting to see things differently.

I hope all our friends and family back home are doing well.

We miss you all.


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  1. Peter and Marina, I am so glad to hear that you are enjoying your adventure together. You both have inspired me to consider taking my own journey to try and discover what matters most to me in life. As much as you miss the apartment, I can tell you that the building is now fully infested with spiders and ghetto bugs. You are not missing a thing haha. On a more serious note, enjoy your travels, you both worked so hard, you deserve this break. Keep us posted, I am enjoying the blog. All the best. Kaitlyn xo

  2. Thanks for the comment Kaitlyn. If you have the opportunity, I totally encourage you to take some time off and travel until you run out of finances. It is amazing how many people we've already met who have simply reached a point in their life where they questioned their current trajectory (ages ranging from 20-60), dropped everything, and set out on the world. You are young, with few strings holding you down – despite what many may tell you. Finish the MSc and do what we didn't do – really try and figure out what to do next. And what better way to puzzle over such a question than when in the midst of an fun journey?

    I hope all is well at the lab, and more specifically that you, Morgan, Ashlee and all the girls are doing well.


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